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Couples Therapy

 

Couples therapy is a type of psychotherapy in which a therapist with clinical experience working with couples helps two people involved in a relationship gain insight into their relationship as well as resolve conflicts to improve lives together.  I use a form of couples therapy that is drawn extensively from the Developmental Model developed by Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson. This form of therapy suggests that couples can move through various stages of growth throughout the course of their relationship and problems can occur when for various reason's the couple is not able to move a stage.  

 

One of the guiding principles for the couple's therapist is to help the individual partners "differentiate" from each other so they are able to better tolerate and express their differences.  In addition, communication differences, attachment styles and the role of the brain and physiological arousal will be examined in detail.  

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What to expect in entering couple's therapy. 

What can you expect to learn in Couples Therapy?

  • learn how to better understand your own thoughts and feelings

  • learn to define and express your thoughts, feelings, and desires

  • learn how to express yourself clearly and with honesty

  • learn how to define and express your thoughts, feelings, and desires

  • learn to establish and maintain healthy boundaries

  • learn to accept and manage your differences with your partner

  • learn effective coping strategies that allow you better manage conflicts with your partner

  • learn to understand you and your partner's attachment style

  • learn how to make "repair attempts" when conflict or harm between partners occur

  • learn how to apologize when you are wrong

  • learn how to move forward in your relationship and let go of past perceived injuries